survivingmiddleage

the ups and downs of life

A Funny Thing Happened

I’m thinking about dating again. Thinking is not doing. But I went back to the scene of the crime…the dating site where I met the guy. So he is back there, too. So the dating site says that we are compatible and would we like to meet? I laughed in an uncomfortable way as I clicked the NO button. I wish it was a HELL NO button, but it isn’t.

The algorithm says we are a match. We were for a bit. It is just almost comical but it isn’t. It’s painful, too. I’m moving on and forward. But you don’t want that reminder of something so painful thrown in your face…even by a stupid dating site. I know it isn’t intentional, but it’s not the best feeling in the world.

So I’m being brave and moving forward. And I told the site that, no, I don’t want to meet him. I couldn’t tell it I already met him and it didn’t work so well. In fact it was worse than not so well. But in a way, a funny thing happened.

Nobody Told Me

Nobody told me that this whole grown up thing was a sham. It really is. Bills, work, relationships. Bills keep getting bigger and I keep getting less for what I pay for. I work like crazy trying to pay for those crazy bills.

And then there’s the relationships. Sometimes I wonder why bother trying. I was recently in one for a few months. He loved me he said. He wanted to marry me he said. Then he didn’t he said. I felt a little like Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City. The breakup wasn’t on a post it. No, it was in a text. Yes, you read that right. A text. I was upset on many levels. Hurt, yes. Angry, absolutely! If you’re going to do something like that, have the courage to do it in person. That is just being a coward. And don’t pretend things are fine two days prior to the breakup. It’s absolutely ridiculous.

So after all of that nonsense, I’m moving forward with my life. It’s funny. I’m doing things I didn’t imagine I would. I am following my dreams for a change. I’m trying life out and being as brave as I can. I’m grateful for my faith in God and  I’m grateful for my supportive friends who have been there through the ups and downs.

 

The Journey of Life

The journey of life is filled with all kinds of situations. There will be trials, troubles, good times and bad. I think that each of these things is there to teach you something. They will be filled with people that will also teach you something as well.

There will be times that things will be smooth sailing and you will wonder how this was missing from your life for so long. The funny thing is that as most Christians will tell you those times come and go. Why? Because you have to have good to get you through the bad. If you don’t have something positive to look back on then you will only have a negative attitude. Some Christians do anyway. They don’t see what is offered to them. They don’t recognize the ebb and flow of life.

In today’s society we often view people and things as disposable. While they have something good, there’s a flaw or something bad that some want to get rid of the offending thing. They forget there is beauty in it. They become obsessed with the flaw or the ugliness.  Jesus spoke of this very thing. Something along the lines of casting stones. Just because something isn’t perfect, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t good. Who among us is perfect? Most of us loved something or someone until we saw that flaw. Did that make that person or thing worthless? No. It made them the same as everyone or everything. Fallible.

Life is not a perfect journey. It is meant to be a learning experience. You should learn about yourself and about others. If you are constantly happy then what is the point of heaven? You would have it here on earth and there would be no point to serve God. You’d be your own God. Instead, you should go through ups and downs in life in order to feel a variety of things. You should turn to God and give all of your heart and soul to Him. You should rely on him. Humans will hurt you every single time. But God can ease that pain and help you through it. He can also help you see why it was necessary.

While it is hard living as a human and dealing with the ups and downs of the journey, it is something we can and should learn from. Trust. Love. Dependence. All hard things, but all necessary.

2015: A Personal Review

I went into 2015 with a lot pain and trying to believe it could get better. I am not the same person I was going into the year as I am now. That is a good thing!

I was at a point where I was unsure if life could get better. I prayed hard that I could find a new job and be able to make changes to feel better. Those prayers were answered! I found a job in a place where I am valued and have the chance to use my skills. I’m able to be involved and give input. I have regular hours. I have met wonderful people that I consider to be good friends. I have lost weight.

With all of this comes changes within myself. I had become a person I didn’t like. As I changed, I began to slowly become myself again. At first it was hard to recognize myself. Who was this woman who smiles and laughs? It was me! I can laugh! And I like to do it!!!! It felt good to be Amy again. I didn’t realize how much I missed myself.

I reacquainted myself with old friends. I found new friends. And I lost touch with some old friends. I hate that I lost touch with old friends. That hurt a lot. I tried to reconnect but sometimes you just have to wait on them and give them time or just accept that it is what it is. But it has been wonderful getting back in touch with old friends. And I have loved meeting new friends.

Then there was the whole dating thing. That was scary! There are some bad ones out there. But the good news is that there are some good ones, too! I was lucky enough to find a great one! He is a good man who I can’t say enough good things about.

2015 has been pretty good. There have been some bumps along the way. But you can’t appreciate the good without having some bad from time to time.

 

Helping Others

I love helping others. This year I have had the opportunity to help others in small ways and it has been such a blessing to me. Maybe some people don’t get it, but you’re doing yourself a favor by helping others. It can lift your spirits and make you feel something in your heart that is inexplicable.

This year I was blessed to have someone to share that joy with me. We laughed like kids as we got to shop for a child that needed things. It was a wonderful experience to share something that I am passionate about with someone else who has the same passion. I was fortunate enough to have a caring group at work who wanted to help a kid have a good Christmas so they all chipped in. I am grateful that they helped me experience something so dear to my heart.

If you have the chance, try helping others this holiday season in some way. You’ll find that your heart will be blessed in a way you never dreamed. It’s an amazing feeling.

Blessings!

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