Loving a Strong-willed Woman
Loving a strong-willed woman is not easy. I know this because I am one. I am opinionated, caring, unruly and driven by my head and heart at the same time. There are certain things and people who I am absolutely passionate about. When I feel passionate enough to express it, you’ll know I truly care.
There are many factors on why I am so strong-willed. First, I am an only child. I have always been independent. Second, my mother instilled even more independence in me. In fact, she encouraged my sassy mouth and free-thinking. She didn’t want me to get run over by life. (I have many times, but I know how to come back swinging.)Third, there were times when being strong-willed was the only way I could be heard. People don’t listen to someone who whispers how they feel. I would rather just say how I feel but that doesn’t always work either. Sometimes you just have to say it loud.
So how does one love someone like me? It’s really not that hard. Value who and what I am. When I say I need or want something within reason, if it is in your power to give it to me then give it. What I usually ask for is time and attention. And I’m not talking constant, needy attention. I need a meaningful conversation. I need hugs. I need laughter. These are the things I thrive on. Sometimes I need advice. Sometimes I might even use it! I also like little things to show me that I am cared for. I don’t need or want extravagant presents. I like a thoughtful note or a silly/caring text for no reason. Presents are nice, too. If you remember that I love Pop Rocks and out of the blue you pick some up for me, that touches my heart way more than something big and fancy. Why? Little things matter.
Lastly, realize that if you love me and I give love back that you will be blessed with an ally. I love hard. When you’re one of “mine” then I will love and fight for you as if I was fighting for myself–probably more so. I love strong and hard. Most strong-willed women are just like me. We are fierce and we give everything we have back.
I think it is better to love a strong-willed woman than a fly-by-night one. With a strong-willed woman, you get someone who will walk through fire for you. The fly-by-night kind will run at the slightest problem.