Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. – Ann Landers
I have a friend who likes to live drama. You’d think it is a female. You’d be thinking wrong. He has had volatile relationships off and on for years. I have known him for 6 years. I was an almost dramatic relationship. We dated briefly. Thank God we both realized that wasn’t a good thing.
Anyway, I do care about this person but he has walked away from this most recent dramatic relationship and it seemed for the best. Now, though, he is regretting it. I don’t necessarily think it is about losing her. I think it is about being alone. He doesn’t like being alone. It drives him nuts. He can’t stand being alone with his thoughts and feelings so it is much easier to get all codependent with someone else and get in these unhealthy, dramatic relationships.
I don’t know if he will read this. Whatever. But I hope if anyone else does that they realize that holding on to something isn’t strength all the time. Sometimes the biggest strength is walking away. I have had to do that. I made the decision to tell a man I loved that I couldn’t allow the way he wanted to live to be a part of my life. I knew it would end our relationship, but I had to save myself. Sometimes you have to be alone in order to save yourself.