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Archive for the month “June, 2012”

Who’s Gonna Write Chick Flicks Now?

Nora Ephron (1941-2012), Thanks and Goodbye

Nora Ephron (1941-2012), Thanks and Goodbye (Photo credit: k-ideas)

I’m sure that lovers of chick flicks heard of the passing of Nora Ephron. I was greatly saddened. I really loved her work. She created characters that I loved. I can watch her work over and over again. I laugh and cry and have this feeling that I just can’t explain while watching. It’s like a longing. And now there’s not going to be any new Nora Ephron works. It’s sad.

So I wonder if there is anyone out there who is going to pick up Nora’s torch and carry on? I wish I could. I will admit she has inspired me to write better and try to improve. I admire her style. I would love to do better and be somewhat close to her level.

 

I Learned Something New

I love learning. And I will admit there is a lot I don’ t know. Today I learned new things about what I shouldn’t be feeding my cats. I know realistically I shouldn’t be feeding them junk. But it’s really hard when they beg. They’re so precious. How can I say no?  Then there is also the fact that they tag team me, too. One distracts while the other steals food.

So I went to the Foster and Smith website and found this list of things to not feed your cats. Pretty intense,  huh? I have to admit, my girls love mushrooms. They also love various vegetables such as olives, which other sites have also warned me to not feed them. They love canned tuna. Chloe absolutely will attack you for avocado and I have heard that it will kill cats. I have to constantly watch these girls! Be careful with your babies.

Items to avoid Reasons to avoid
Alcoholic beverages Can cause intoxication, coma, and death.
Baby food Can contain onion powder, which can be toxic to cats fed baby food for an extended period of time. (Please see onion below.) Can also result in nutritional deficiencies, if fed in large amounts.
Bones from fish, poultry, or other meat sources Can cause obstruction or laceration of the digestive system.
Canned tuna (for human consumption) Large amounts can cause malnutrition, since it lacks proper levels of vitamins and minerals. It can also lead to thiamine deficiency (see ‘Fish’ below).
Chocolate, coffee, tea, and other caffeine Contain caffeine, theobromine, or theophylline, which can cause vomiting and diarrhea and be toxic to the heart and nervous system.
Citrus oil extracts Can cause vomiting.
Dog food If accidental ingestion, will not cause a problem; if fed repeatedly, may result in malnutrition and diseases affecting the heart.
Fat trimmings Can cause pancreatitis.
Fish (raw, canned or cooked) If fed exclusively or in high amounts can result in a thiamine (a B vitamin) deficiency leading to loss of appetite, seizures, and in severe cases, death.
Grapes, raisins and currants Contain an unknown toxin, which can damage the kidneys.
Human vitamin supplements containing iron Can damage the lining of the digestive system and be toxic to the other organs including the liver and kidneys.
Macadamia nuts Contain an unknown toxin, which can affect the digestive and nervous systems and muscle.
Marijuana Can depress the nervous system, cause vomiting, and changes in the heart rate.
Milk and other dairy products Some adult cats and dogs may develop diarrhea if given large amounts of dairy products.
Moldy or spoiled food, garbage Can contain multiple toxins causing vomiting and diarrhea and can also affect other organs.
Mushrooms Can contain toxins, which may affect multiple systems in the body, cause shock, and result in death.
Onions and garlic (raw, cooked, or powder) Contain sulfoxides and disulfides, which can damage red blood cells and cause anemia. Cats are more susceptible than dogs. Garlic is less toxic than onions.
Persimmons Seeds can cause intestinal obstruction and enteritis.
Raw eggs Contain an enzyme called avidin, which decreases the absorption ofbiotin (a B vitamin). This can lead to skin and hair coat problems. Raw eggs may also contain Salmonella.
Raw meat May contain bacteria such as Salmonella and E. coli, which can cause vomiting and diarrhea.
Rhubarb leaves Contain oxalates, which can affect the digestive, nervous, and urinary systems.
Salt If eaten in large quantities it may lead to electrolyte imbalances.
String Can become trapped in the digestive system; called a “string foreign body.
Sugary foods Can lead to obesity, dental problems, and possibly diabetes mellitus.
Table scraps (in large amounts) Table scraps are not nutritionally balanced. They should never be more than 10% of the diet. Fat should be trimmed from meat; bones should not be fed.
Tobacco Contains nicotine, which affects the digestive and nervous systems. Can result in rapid heart beat, collapse, coma, and death.
Yeast dough Can expand and produce gas in the digestive system, causing pain and possible rupture of the stomach or intestines.

Nervy People

So the other day I was talking to someone and this person says to me, “Oh by the way, you know how you told me THIS? Well, when I did it, it was super easy! I don’t know why you said it was difficult.” I was kind of taken aback. This person is an acquaintance that I really don’t like to talk to, but have to from time to time. She often makes these comments. Most days I can just blow it off. I did need to relay more information to her that day, but instead I smiled that nice fake smile and said very tersely, “Have a good day!” I really didn’t mean it. I just needed to get away from her before I said something very ugly.

So here is my question: WTF?!?! Why is it that some people want to put people down constantly? (BTW, I know dang well that she can’t figure things out any better than me so she isn’t so brilliant. I truly do not consider her to be more intelligent than I am and don’t care if she is. Her life is hers. Mine is mine.) And she does need me from time to time. So why would someone do something like that? I would never go out of my way to talk down to someone without provocation.

Do y’all have people that do this to you? If so, what do you do? Do you just call them out? Do you walk away? WHAT DO YOU DO?

Watching a Relationship Trainwreck

English: Broken Heart symbol

English: Broken Heart symbol (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Have you ever seen something happening but had no way of stopping it? I have. It’s an unsettling and upsetting feeling. You wish you could have done something yet you couldn’t. I was thinking about this feeling as I have been watching the demise of relationships via Facebook. (Yes, Facebook again.) I know when mine was falling apart last year people could probably see it coming through my musical posts. I didn’t necessarily say what was happening, but sometimes I would post music videos that suited my mood. I have noticed the musical posts of friends lately. Then I noticed their relationship status changes. It is so revealing. It is also heartbreaking. You watch this and there is nothing you can do but watch it unfold. It is so sad to watch these lives disintegrate before you. Thankfully not everyone puts all their drama out there and they don’t tell everything that has happened. But it just makes me hurt for them. Some of these people have been married almost 20 years. It does make me sit back and just shake my head. I don’t have the right to ask questions but I do care about them. I hurt for them.

Have you ever seen this? It is like watching a trainwreck. You wish so much you could stop it and  yet there is nothing you can do.

I’m in a Time Out!

Because I want to be! And because I need to be! The stress of the last few weeks has just caught up with me. So my phone is off. I am not talking to anyone on Monday. I’m sorry, but if something happens people will have to leave me a voicemail. I just have to take care of Amy. Nobody else will. I have found that out.

I had someone say something the other day that really pointed out to me that. I told them I couldn’t do something and they told me that a few other people couldn’t do it because they had family obligations. They didn’t come right out and say it, but the implication was that because I don’t have a family that my time wasn’t valuable. Well, it is. And because of that, I have had to resort to turning my phone off on my off time in order to take care of my business. If I don’t, people call and request me to take care of what they should be handling. Then I get catty remarks because people can’t reach me immediately. I am like, “I do have to sleep sometime!” and “I do have things to do!”

I usually am helpful to others but I have finally learned that I have to put myself first more. And it isn’t selfish, as others have tried to tell me. I figure those people are trying to pull a guilt trip so that I will do their bidding. Sorry, I finally figured it out! I got their number now. I just hate the manipulation that others try to do. I don’t get it.

Do you have this type of people in your life?

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