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The Southern Lady Cooks

Fried Green TomatoesSoutherners all know about fried green tomatoes and fried okra.  It would be a wasted summer without this dish on the table a few times during the season.  There are a number of different recipes out there for this treat.  You cannot be a southerner if you don’t like fried okra and tomatoes!

3 or 4 green tomatoes
1/2 cup all-purpose flour or 1/2 cup cornmeal
2 eggs
salt and pepper
dash of garlic powder
1/2 to 3/4 cup cooking oil
Slice green tomatoes into slices about 1/4 inch thick. In a bowl beat eggs with a whisk. In another bowl add salt and pepper and garlic powder to meal or flour whichever you decide to use for breading.   There is really not much difference.  The tomatoes in the picture have been done with both.  I usually have a bowl of flour and a bowl of cornmeal and I do…

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Innocent Words

what are word for?

what are word for? (Photo credit: Darwin Bell)

It amazes me how innocent words can be taken out of context. Today has been my foot-in-mouth day, it seems. A friend sent me a text. Because I didn’t reply with capital letters to show enthusiasm in my words, they took it completely wrong. I tried to tell the person I was in the middle of something and it actually took effort just to send a response. They didn’t like that and got mad. Sorry, but that wasn’t my fault. I did respond. It wasn’t with a hateful comment or anything, but just a simple answer. If you are seriously that petty, then you have a problem–not me.

I also left a comment for someone that was meant to be humorous. They took it differently and I’m not sure what they really took it as, but the snide remark I got back just left me shaking my head. I actually like this person but I don’t like pissy responses.

My thing is why don’t people assume the best out of someone rather than assuming that someone is out to be mean or “get them”? There are times when all the pettiness and pissiness makes me just want to truly be the crazy ol’ cat lady and not really have to deal with the crap that goes with human interaction. I try to just take things at face value but there are times when people go out of their way to show you that is not what they meant at all. I don’t get it. I have lived too many years and dealt with too much nonsense to tolerate anymore of it.

It’s amazing how innocent words can be so inflammatory. The simplest thing can be taken out of context. Someone can be reading something and get a completely different interpretation than another person. For example, if I asked, “What is that you don’t like about that?” some people would read it just as it is. But someone else might read it like, “What is that you don’t like about that?” The tone completely changed and is now heating up. And you know as you said it the second way that your tone of voice really changed and your words became choppy.

Do yourself and others a favor. Give someone the benefit of the doubt. If it is written word, read it just as it is on the screen or page. That actually may be the way the writer intended.

Fat Tuesday

Stained glass at St John the Baptist's Anglica...

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Today is Fat Tuesday. (Every Tuesday is fat at my house!) Fat Tuesday is the day before Lent starts. The purpose of Fat Tuesday is to indulge in preparation for Lent, which is a 40 day period of fasting.No, it’s not a 40 day fast from food. That could kill someone! No, it’s a time of self-denial. I guess this helps you get closer to God. For some people they may be praying hard to get through 40 days of doing without something they love. Fat Tuesday is also the last day of Mardi Gras, which is literally the name Fat Tuesday. I suppose they close it down with a bang before giving up something they love.

Catholics and Protestants observe Lent. I’m a Protestant and personally feel we should always remain connect to God, but this time period really provides or even necessitates it.

If you are giving up something for Lent, I wish you well. 40 days is a long time, but it is probably well worth it. Am I giving up something? I’m not sure. I have already given up men and am almost a nun. So I’ll think about it today and decide.

You Can’t Unring A Bell

The Bell of Nanbanji, made in Portugal for Nan...

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Have you ever heard the expression, “You can’t unring a bell“? I love it because it is so true! Once you do something, you can’t undo it. You can try to make up for it if you want, but the simple fact is that once it is done, it is done! That’s why it is so important to really consider something before you make a decision, especially big ones.

You want examples? OK. You get mad at work. And rather than just dealing with it and moving forward you react immediately. You quit your job. So did that really help? I’m not saying take abuse. I’m saying think before you act! If you quit a job, you’re losing safety and security that income provides. This could also affect your relationships and living situation. So one decision could affect every aspect of your life. Another example is friendship. You get mad at a friend. Who doesn’t? So out of anger, you just blow the friend off or in the case of Facebook you go so far as to “unfriend” the person or  “block” them. What if you overreacted? What if you want that person back in your life later but you have taken that action? Do you think they’re going to want you back? No, probably not. I have been unfriended before over stupid stuff and if that person came back and decided to send me a friend request my answer would be “NO!” I value friends and don’t give up on them easily. I would hope others are the same way. I don’t just give up on a friend because I didn’t like something they said or did once. If it was something that happened continually then I’d rethink the whole thing, and I have had to do that. One more example, I promise! You have a disagreement with your significant other. You don’t end things with someone you love because of a disagreement. And if you do, you might really regret what you did. Have you ever said something or done something in the heat of the moment and regretted it? If you do this with a significant other, it could be the biggest mistake of your life. You may turn someone you love into someone who hates you.

So before doing things that have significant impact, don’t forget that you can’t unring a bell! Once it has been rung, it’s done.


I have suffered from insomnia most of my life. Today is particularly bad because I’m exhausted and yet I’ve been staring at the ceiling for a while. It is frustrating to be soooo tired yet unable to sleep. Part of it could be stress, but honestly I’ve always had sleep issues.  Even as a kid. I was a kid who liked sleeping because when I could rest

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