I heard a sermon on forgiveness
I heard a sermon on forgiveness yesterday on the radio. The preacher was Andy Stanley. I really liked him. He brought up points that most people would bring up. Forgiveness is not just for the person being forgiven, but it is for the person doing the forgiving. But how do you do that? Do you wait until the person who should be forgiven asks for forgiveness? What if they don’t ask? If they don’t ask for forgiveness are you going to keep resentment and anger in your heart?
I think forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. It is not a natural thing for us. Humans tend to want to keep score and withhold forgiveness. We want things to be fair. Life isn’t fair. It will never be fair. People are always going to hurt others. It’s horrible that this is natural, yet it is. Am I going to stay angry at every person who has ever hurt me? If so, that is a LOT of anger. I don’t want to be filled with that emotion. Yet there are times when I don’t know how to get rid of it. I write. I cry. I scream. I don’t want to be filled with negativity.
Do I wait until someone asks for forgiveness? No. I can’t. There are people who feel they have done nothing wrong and I have to tell myself that I forgive them especially because of that. Obviously they’re clueless as to what they have done or they are heartless. Cluelessness and heartlessness are both things to feel pity for someone. I pity people who are absolutely clueless. I pity heartless people. They don’t know what true feelings are and that is sad. I may be hurt, but at least I can feel!
So when you are in a situation where you either forgive or not, think about it as getting a monkey off your back. Just because you forgive, it doesn’t mean you forget. And just because you forgive, it doesn’t mean that the other person was right. It just means that you don’t want to live with an ugly emotion in your life. By giving forgiveness you are taking control of your life. It’s not easy. By no stretch of the imagination is it easy. But it does give you peace.