There are some people that you meet in life that you know that you were meant to meet. They’re your people. Whether it’s a friend, a girlfriend, a boyfriend or a lover. You know that they’re destined to be in your life. They may not stay in your life forever. But for some amount of time they are in your life. And there is a reason for it.
I have had friends in my life that have been around for over 30 years. These friends have stuck by me through crazy relationships and terrible loss. They have loved me through tears and try to make me laugh when I thought that there was no laughter to be had. They have given me shelter and love when I felt like nobody would ever love me.
There have also been the people that have struck a nerve in me where I had no understanding of what it was about that person that resonated within me so deeply. For instance there’s been a man who if you looked at us separately you would think that there was no common denominator. There is nothing similar about us and yet… It’s this type of feeling and magnetism that is indescribable. Sometimes the best people to have around you are the ones who do have such big differences. Sometimes their differences are the opposite but yet exactly what you need. It balances you out. And we all need balance.
Then there have been the people in my life who have been the lessons. They were destined to be in my life for some reason and a few of those people have been lessons as to what I need to avoid or what I need to avoid becoming. They were people who were short term. Some of them were actually even friends for a brief amount of time. Sometimes there was no big argument, but rather it just went away.
I learned that not everyone in your life is supposed to be permanent. This life is not necessarily about permanency. It’s ever-changing. But there are also some people who will be with you until the end if you’re very lucky. And I am very lucky that I have a few of those.
I do hope to have one day the man in my life that will be the balance. I need that. We all need balance. The yin and yang. Some people want to find someone who is exactly like them and that is exactly what I don’t want to find. I need someone who will understand my tears and wipe them away and who will be the calm in the storm. I need someone who understands that I need to express myself artistically. I need someone who understands that I am an idea person and I am going to dream up 50 million ideas that may or may not come to fruition but yet I still like to dream. And I also need that person to understand that I still have these other people in my life that are as crazy as me and that they are my people. I love them. And if I find the right person the people that love me will love him as much. Because they have been waiting on this person as long as I have. Because they want nothing but the best for me.
It’s important to find your people. Your heart will recognize them. Trust your heart.