Flirting?

 I have gone through many phases of life. When I was younger, I was quite outgoing. I didn’t care what people thought; I just said or did it. Then I became quite self-conscious. I became more introverted. I could hide it, though. I could flirt from time to time. But I never knew when a male was interested in me. (By the way, I still don’t.) Then I hit a spell where I got a little more comfortable with myself again and honestly had a plethora of men to practice on. Some was innocent flirting and some was “let’s see what happens” flirting. It was fun and interesting. It was kind of like an experiment. If science had been like that in school, I would have LOVED it! I should have taken more psychology classes because human interaction is fascinating. Then I made some bad choices. Boy were they bad! I went back to being the natural introvert I am.So I felt the flirt come out recently. It was SHOCKING! I didn’t mean to do it. It was natural and somewhat disconcerting. I saw this man and he was funny and smart and he could talk geek to me! DING DING DING! We have a winner! Amy is now interested. And it is so funny how it happens. He says something. I say something and I laugh and before I knew it I flipped my hair. I thought to myself even as I did it, What the hell did I just do? Flipped my hair? Have I flipped my wig for real? WTH?! I kept going, though, I chatted, smiled and laughed. It was a brief moment but I do have a chance to talk to him later. Do I feel self-conscious? Do I roll with it? Did he notice? Did he care? Was his wedding band in the shop or is he REALLY single? And why do women analyze this stuff? It’s funny. I’m thinking of writing a sitcom. These are the things women do. (Men, you are getting insight into a woman’s psyche for FREE! Pay attention! And repay the kindness! Give information back!) So now you know. I’m partially crazy. I did something that shocked me. It didn’t kill me. So there ya go!

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I took a chance

 

I have talked about making changes. Today I decided to do something. I wrote an “article” and submitted it to a local women’s monthly magazine. They may or may not like it. But know what? I finally wrote something besides my blog. Initially I went to their website and sent them a quick email just stating that I had an article written that I would like to submit for review. They responded very positively within an hour to my message. As soon as I got the response, I emailed back with my piece. It’s just a short piece, only 600 words. It’s a small, local magazine for women so they don’t do huge articles. I hope they want it. I would love for them to say YES!

But anyway…it was a chance.

 

A Year of Changes

A year ago my life changed drastically. The man I considered the love of my life decided he didn’t love me anymore. I wondered how in the world I would survive in every way imaginable. I survived. I also surprised myself by changing for the better. I didn’t believe it really possible.

I thought without him I was going to be homeless, friendless, loveless and just “less than” in general. I’m now more financially stable than I ever was with him. That really shed some light on things. I lost some friends in the loss of him but I figured out they weren’t really friends if they chose him over me. I haven’t been ready to search for another “love” but I have love in my life. And it is great and fulfilling love. I have people who support me all the time and not when it is going to be beneficial to them. I’m not “less than” because I am single. I am a freaking powerhouse! I work. I am finishing my degree. I write like a madwoman. I take care of business!

This year is about me. I can be as selfish as I wanna be. It’s ok because in the past I have given until it hurt. This year all the changes have come together and the realization is that it IS ok for things to be about me! I need to take care of me more.

Change can be and is a good thing.

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Am I Turning Into A Guy?

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As I get older I notice that I am liking things that guys like more and more. I’ve never been your tee-hee girly-girl kinda chick. No way! But I liked fixing my hair and wearing make-up. Now, not so much. I think it’s a combination of getting older and working third shift. Who really sees me on third shift? The other person couldn’t care less what I look like. I do like for my hair to look nice but I haven’t had time to get it cut in months. Why? Usually when I am off and awake, the rest of the world is asleep.

When it comes to driving I am definitely not a saintly person. I curse and yell and I will admit that I use hand gestures from time to time. I do ask for directions, though, if I get lost. This is getting more and more interesting.

I do like chick flicks but I am liking sci-fi more and more. I think the catalyst to this was “Lost”. I’m gonna blame that show anyway. Maybe I’m not so guy-like, though. I cried during the finale for 2 1/2 hours. I now love “Fringe”  as well. I have always been crazy for action/adventure movies. Gimme some “Bourne Supremacy” and I’m a happy girl (maybe).

I joked with my friends about how guys were such babies when it comes to being sick. Guess what! I whine and complain now when I’m sick. I mean, I try to hold back, but I can’t always stop it. It doesn’t matter, though. I am whining to myself anyway.

Another guy thing that I am almost ashamed of…should I say it? Sure. Why not? I like to sit around the house in my jammies or underwear. There! I admitted it! I hate watching movies or tv shows while wearing non-stretchy pants.

So I wonder if this is what most chicks go through or if I’m turning into a guy.

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Insight For The Men Into Women

So some of my male friends want to be clued in on women. So here’s my thoughts. First, all women are different and we are not going to all like the same thing. But many of us do want the same things and expect the same things and NEED the same things. So men, if you’re interested, I’m helping you out by breaking the woman code. Take notes.

1. Be yourself. When you’re fake it will come out eventually. Being fake equals lying. Women do not like liars.
2. If you are not interested in a woman, don’t lead her on by continuing to date her. Most women do want a long-term relationship and by continuing to stay involved with a woman when you know for a fact it’s not long-term is basically lying. (See #1)
3. Don’t give all these stupid come-on lines. They’re annoying and make you look like a jerk.
4. If you are interested in a woman, listen to her. Ask her questions. Then use this information! Example: If she says she loves white roses, send them to her just because. I had this happen once and it was the sweetest and most romantic gesture I had ever experienced. It told me that he really listened to what I said and he cared enough to use that information on a day that was crappy. He turned my whole day around with that gesture and made me cry happy tears. (BTW, a woman crying happy tears is a GREAT thing!)
5. Don’t boast. It just proves how insecure you really are. We are all insecure but most women don’t want to hear a man bragging about this or that. It’s a major turn-off and you can easily get yourself put on the do-not-call list by doing so.
6. Be vulnerable. Now, when I say this I do not mean be a crybaby because most women don’t like that either. Personally I can’t stand crybabies even though I am one. (And yes, understand that a woman can be contradictory and it is fine and quite acceptable.) But if you are watching The Notebook and feel yourself choking up, don’t mask it by joking about how stupid it is. Go with it! She’s going to love that a romantic movie can move you, too.
7. Honesty. This is a tricky one. It’s important to be honest, but sometimes there is such a thing as too much honesty. If she asks, “How do I look?” and you think she has on too much make-up don’t say something like, “I didn’t know the circus was in town or that you had a 2nd job as a clown.” That will get you slapped. And guess what you won’t be getting. Think about it. Sometimes you need to use a filter.
8. Speaking of filters, they’re also good when you feel like talking about every woman who you have ever dated or who has ever done you wrong. Guess what. She’s not her. She doesn’t want to be compared to the past. If you are speaking to her about the past then most likely you are still thinking about that other person and there are still feelings involved. It’s ok to learn from the past. You have to. But when you drive it into the ground with the person that you’re with, you’re going to drive her away.
9. If your mother is still alive and you’re in a relationship, do not pit the two of them against each other. You are asking for trouble. Mothers are wonderful but there are some that are overbearing and meddlesome and most women are wary. My ex-mother in law meddled in my marriage constantly. She felt she could say whatever she thought about me and my life and it was ok. It was not ok. I had a mother and do not need or want some hateful woman getting in my business. If your mother doesn’t like your romantic interest you need to make a decision. Do you care enough about this romance to continue? If so, tell mom to butt out! Otherwise she will continue to be in it and it will cause major issues. Believe me. Been there. Done that. And told my ex-mother in law where to go and how to get there and offered to draw a map. She didn’t like me too much. Imagine that.
10. If you are involved in a romantic liaison, make sure that everyone she encounters is respectful. Sometimes your friends may not like her and they make it clear that they don’t. Do you think she is going to want to hang out with them if they do that? No. She will do everything in her power to avoid them at all costs. She may not try to destroy your relationship with those friends, but it will affect one of the relationships. Decide early on how you want to deal with it.
11. Quit living in the past and live in the present. She wants to know that you enjoy her and are possibly thinking of a future. If you’re not, move on. Don’t waste either person’s time. If you’re too busy talking about “back in the day” then you’re not looking at the future. She wants that.
12. Don’t whine! Women want you to share but if you whine about any and everything you are going to run her off. She doesn’t want to hear how you don’t like this or that constantly.

Now this is not everything about women, but it is definitely a beginning. Learn from it.