I think that most of the people who are in our lives are there for a purpose. I don’t think this applies to everyone but for most. Some people just show up and they should have never come to my life party. They crashed. But my thought on this is that people are in our lives at certain times and places for reasons. And sometimes people come into our lives at a time when they shouldn’t necessarily be there but we know they should be in our lives at some point.
What I mean by this is that I have had people come and go in my life. Some needed to go. They were toxic for me. And if someone is bringing negativity to my life I really don’t want them around. But sometimes I think we need that negativity to make us appreciate positivity. Make sense? And then there are times when people enter our lives prematurely and things get screwy and then they’re gone. But something happens and they come back for some reason. You may never understand why or how but they’re back. I have had this experience more than once and it is such a heart-warming feeling. You knew that person belonged in your life. You just didn’t know how or why.
Yes, I overanalyze things. I think a lot of this comes from all the comings and goings in my life. I have an abandonment issue from earlier in my life so I get antsy about people passing through my life. But I have come to realize that some people can’t stay a part of my life, while others need to come back. It’s the ebb and flow of life. Life has to ebb in order to flow.
As I have taken stock of these things and wondered why a million times or more I realized that everyone who has passed through my life has taught me something, whether good or bad. And we all go through things and relationships can’t stay the same forever. We change as life changes. It’s natural. People who don’t change are not growing. The people who come through my life assist me in this personal growth. And sometimes losing them really hurts, but sometimes I need to lose some people to make room for others. And these can be new or old people. And I welcome them into my life because I will learn something. The important thing to realize is that timing is everything and certain people will be in our lives at a time and place for a reason.