Yesterday I was in a major funk. I mean, major. Lately I have felt alone. Due to how much I work and the hours, I haven’t had much contact with my friends. I think that many stressors in my life just put me in a bad place mentally. I have kind of felt like a kicked dog. Being in such an isolated situation, sometimes you just need someone to listen and care. I haven’t had that too much recently because of the craziness of my schedule and others as well. Yesterday was just the day I couldn’t do much more. I just sat and cried. And I cried some more. And I just needed someone to talk to. I finally reached out to one of my friends and just said flat-out, “I need a friend to listen and care without judgment. Can you do that?” I couldn’t take criticism. I couldn’t take anything except someone telling me life was going to be ok. I didn’t care if she was lying. Just please say it. Maybe I will believe it. She said it. She made me laugh. She told me to get my shit together or she’d kick my ass. It was what I needed. We couldn’t talk long but it was enough to get me through a rough patch.
Moral of the story: Sometimes just listen to your friends. Sometimes they don’t want solutions. Sometimes they just want to talk and be told it is going to be ok and life will get better. If they ask for a solution, fine. But if not, just listen and care and even console. And then if you need to threaten to kick their ass.
- To : All My Friends (itjustinme.wordpress.com)
- Listening is an Act of Love (susanblandrum.wordpress.com)
- The Gift of Listening (findingpositiveperspective.wordpress.com)