Today is Fat Tuesday. (Every Tuesday is fat at my house!) Fat Tuesday is the day before Lent starts. The purpose of Fat Tuesday is to indulge in preparation for Lent, which is a 40 day period of fasting.No, it’s not a 40 day fast from food. That could kill someone! No, it’s a time of self-denial. I guess this helps you get closer to God. For some people they may be praying hard to get through 40 days of doing without something they love. Fat Tuesday is also the last day of Mardi Gras, which is literally the name Fat Tuesday. I suppose they close it down with a bang before giving up something they love.
Catholics and Protestants observe Lent. I’m a Protestant and personally feel we should always remain connect to God, but this time period really provides or even necessitates it.
If you are giving up something for Lent, I wish you well. 40 days is a long time, but it is probably well worth it. Am I giving up something? I’m not sure. I have already given up men and am almost a nun. So I’ll think about it today and decide.
I have been talking to some friends about this and am wondering what the rest of the world thinks. So if there is anyone reading this, please respond. Is Mr. Right a myth or what? So far I haven’t seen him. He’s pretty much like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny to me. People swear he is out there, but I ain’t seen him.
I jokingly wrote about how a woman’s criteria for her man list changes over the years. Maybe that is the problem. Mine hasn’t. But then again, mine didn’t seem to complicated to me.
Make me a priority. If I am not at the top of the list then I will not stay on the list.
Be honest. I have had too many people lie to me. It hurts. I am one of those people who reads others pretty well. I will catch it.
Be affectionate. I like hugs and kisses. If you don’t then you’re out.
Be employed or at least independently wealthy. I’m not a bank and can barely afford my own upkeep.
Have a smile that reaches his eyes. If a person’s eyes don’t light up when they smile, it is fake. I don’t want fake.
Be attentive but not overly. I don’t like a clingy-ass man but I do like one that pays attention and cares whether I am breathing.
Be spontaneous when appropriate. Don’t decide in the middle of a restaurant to take your shirt off, but why not say, “Hey! I was thinking we haven’t done anything just for us in a while. Why don’t we go on a day trip?”
Be respectful and require that of the people in our lives. I have had relationships where the friends of the guy were not respectful to me at all and he did nothing. Then when I said or did something to fix it I was accused of being the bitch. I shouldn’t have had to do it in the first place and if he had been man enough he would have done it for me. I don’t allow others to speak ill or be disrespectful to the man in my life and I have the same expectation.
Be thoughtful. I like presents just because. I don’t require expensive ones. Just something that lets me know I was thought of. It really goes a long way and is DEFINITELY in his best interest. (Lesson for men: Rewards are often given for this behavior.)
Consider me when making decisions. If something that someone is going to do affects my life, then I should be consulted.
Rub my hair! I know this might sound a little odd but I have a hard time sleeping and rubbing my hair relaxes me and makes me feel safe and secure. The better I rest, the better mood I’m in. Easy to see this is quite beneficial.
I would love a man to take out the trash. I can do a lot of things but I despise taking out the trash.
Like football. I was raised in Alabama and we LOVE football. It’s a way of life.
Try to like some of the same stuff I do. You might not like it and that is ok. But be appreciative that I do like it.
So I don’t think this list is too hard. So either I am asking too much or Mr. Right really is a myth. I’m not sure which it is. I do know that I ain’t settling. I have had enough of so so for the rest of my life!
Follow and join the journey to a healthy divahood because you are worth it! I hope to inspire others while they also inspire me to become a healthier diva.
