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Dear Santa

Letter to Santa

Dear Santa,

It’s Amy. This year was quite the year. I will not say I was an angel, but considering all I had to deal with I certainly wasn’t the devil I could have been. I mean, I had to deal with an obsessive-compulsive Lawn Mower Man/Weed Eater Man/Leaf Blower Man just about daily. Lack of sleep and just plain ol’ meanness nearly drove me to doing some pretty drastic measures. I didn’t put out the extra rocks that I considered. I also didn’t put clear forks in the lawn, tines up, to maim the mower. Yes, I admit the thought occurred but I was rational. I figured I would get evicted if I did it. See?! I was good AND showed restraint! That should count for something! Right?!?!

I also didn’t pitch fits at work at times when I wanted to. I was cussed at on the phones at times and called in at crazy hours. I didn’t get to go home to Alabama as planned because things at work changed. But I kept on working and sucked it up. I worked while sniffling, sneezing, running a fever, and feeling like someone had run me over. Shouldn’t that warrant some good favor?

So, Ho Ho, I would like some things this year and think I am deserving. I would like:

  • A vacation get-away somewhere warm and quiet, but with internet access
  • A new bed that feels like heaven when I climb in it
  • A new laptop
  • A nice age-appropriate woman for Lawn Mower Man/Weed Eater Man/Leaf Blower Man to keep him occupied and TIRED
  • A nice age-appropriate man for me that will make me laugh again and possibly keep me tired, too (wink-wink)
  • A cat tower for my girls because they deserve it
  • More money in my bank account
  • Spa day for me

I think upon review, you’ll find these things to be not so bad. I could have said, “Screw it!” But I didn’t! I have been pretty good for the majority of the year. Yeah, there were some slip ups and my mouth might need to be cleaned out a little, but it’s not as bad as it could be. Santa, don’t ya have it in your heart to help a middle aged chick out? I mean, honestly, in the last decade you have been slacking. I haven’t said anything but frankly enough is enough.

Love,

Amy

My Life and Part of My Politics

So I was reading something today that just really bothered me. Because I sometimes lean to the left politically, some people assume (and you know what it makes you when you ASSume) that I am anti-God and  anti-country. Lemme just clear the air on this. I lean to the left because I believe in social programs. Why? Because I believe in helping others. Why? Because my religious beliefs (yes, I am a Christian) are so strong that I feel that we should live by what it says, which is to help others. Another reason is that without those wonderful social programs I wouldn’t have gotten the medical help I greatly needed as a child and couldn’t afford. So before people spout off about how un-American I am, I would like for them to ask WHY I believe the way I do.

So here’s Amy’s story: I was born with a cleft palate. Thankfully it was just my palate. Typically it affects more than just the palate. Approximately 2,600 children are born in the United States with a cleft palate only each year. That’s very few people considering the number of births annually. I was born in 1971. They weren’t really looking for it and thankfully mine wasn’t gaping. But it caused severe medical problems. I wasn’t diagnosed with the cleft until I was five years old. Medical difficulties from the cleft palate include problems with swallowing, choking, ear, nose, throat, dental, speech, and hearing problems. Guess what. I had all of those.

We were poor. We didn’t have insurance. In order to get help, Mama would pack me up and take me to what was called the Alabama Crippled Children’s Clinic. We didn’t call it disabled back then. No, it was an ugly word for the problems that people dealt with: crippled. And let me tell you what, I was lucky! There were people there that were going through hell on earth. I saw one family there that had survived a house fire. I still cry at the pain those people endured. They were wrapped in bandages as they waited in that hot, crowded waiting room while people stared at them like they were freaks.

The clinic was only open once a month on certain days of the week and you couldn’t get an appointment. It was first come, first serve unless you had surgery. Mama and I got there early and packed a lunch. It was 1976. There were no cell phones or fast food. You couldn’t leave to go grab a bite to eat or you’d lose your place in line. I had to sit there and behave for the day. The place was tense. Nobody wanted to be there, but we all needed to be there.

When my diagnosis of a cleft palate was finally given, it was a relief for my parents. There was finally an answer for what was going on with me. There was a reason I choked so easily. There was a reason I stayed sick all the time. But what to do? The answer was surgery. The roof of my mouth didn’t develop properly and hadn’t closed during development and was the culprit. It needed repaired. This was not a simple surgery. It wasn’t a cheap surgery. Thankfully, due to social programs, the State of Alabama paid for it. I had a wonderful surgeon, Dr. George Walker. I may have been five years old, but I still remember his name. He was such a good man. The only thing I would have changed about how things were done was I would have explained what was going to happen. Nobody really did that and it scared me to death. I didn’t have a clue. If I had known, it would have been a lot easier to handle. I had surgery on my mouth and was unable to talk for quite a while because of the fear of the strain it would cause. I think I couldn’t talk for almost two weeks. I was five and couldn’t spell. Thankfully I loved to draw and I was pretty good at charades. I could only eat soft food for six weeks. I ate more scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes, soup, and ice cream than you could imagine. You’d think that I would hate those foods now, but they are now my comfort foods.

After the surgery there was still work to be done. Just because the roof of my mouth was repaired, it didn’t mean I was suddenly all better. No. I had learned to speak with that hole in mouth. I had to go through speech therapy. Is that cheap? No. Again, social programs! I had to go to speech therapy at least once a week for several months after surgery. I had to learn how to force those sounds to come out a different way. It was frustrating. I had spoken this way for years. I even had to go to speech therapy in school the first year I entered public school.

Without social programs I would still have a hole in the roof of my mouth. I could have suffered deafness. I did have several ear infections which did considerable damage to my ears. I have had to have tubes in my ears more than once. And just because my palate was fixed when I was five, doesn’t mean there weren’t other problems. Because the palate didn’t close properly when I was developing, it caused the sinus cavities and eustachian tubes to be somewhat off as well. I still suffer sinus issues to this day, which we can’t say are related to the cleft palate or just climate. I have had two surgeries because of sinus issues and really need surgery for my deviated septum but after two previous painful surgeries and lack of funds, I am just not sure about undergoing that much pain again. Whenever I have had to have a new doctor examine me, they have been amazed at the work on the roof of my mouth. They have seen few cases of cleft palates and my plastic surgeon did excellent work.

So this is my story.

Is the left unChristian? I don’t think it always is, just as I don’t think all right wingers are always very Christian. But I do believe social programs are very Christian. Galatians 6:2 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Proverbs 19:17 “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay him for his deed.”

Am I anti-Country? No way! I am so proud of my country my heart could burst. I admit not everything is perfect, but nothing ever is. I love the United States of America! I can’t imagine living anywhere else and I am blessed and lucky to live here. God bless America!

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If you want to find out more information about cleft palates, you can visit the March of Dimes website and see what they have to say about it. It explains things better than I can.

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Who Am I?

It seems I have been trying to figure that out for years. Who am I? I think the ultimate answer is I’m just Amy. But I started asking the question again recently when I started watching the show “Who Do You Think You Are?” I saw the title on Hulu and was like, “Well, I dunno.” I couldn’t ask my parents; they’re dead. I have asked some family members but some don’t know and some don’t talk about it. So Ancestry.com got their advertising money’s worth from me. I signed up.

So who am I? Well I am still trying to figure that out. I did find out I’m Jewish. Oy vey! :) Who knew? Nothing wrong with it. I just didn’t know. Funny. I’m actually a little bit of everything. I do have quite a bit of German and German Jewish in me. There’s some Scottish, Irish, and a tad bit of French. I have been told that I am Cherokee and my father looked Cherokee but I don’t know where it came in at.

It’s also very interesting that so many of my family lived in North Carolina years ago and then moved west and ended up in Alabama. Not that far away really but still I didn’t really know that over a hundred years ago I had so many relatives in North Carolina. Now here I am after having lived in Alabama so long and I live in North Carolina.

So while I try to figure out who I am on a daily basis, I also am trying to find out where I come from and who I come from in that sense. It’s interesting.

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day

Dr. Martin Luther King at a press conference.

Image via Wikipedia

Today is a day to remember a man who set out to change America. He was an amazing man who lived and died for a cause. I wish that he had never had to fight for something that should have been his right. I truly believe that “all men (women) are created equal.” I don’t think color should matter. It saddens me that we even had that period of time in our country. Martin Luther King, Jr. was not a saint but he was a great orator. He was a man who fought for his beliefs. He was loud and proud about his beliefs and sat in jail cells to prove it.

I was not alive during his lifetime but I heard stories from my mother. We lived in the state where a lot of the fight for civil rights happened, Alabama. We may have been white, but it was part of our history as well because our home state was involved. While I am usually proud of the state of Alabama, that is something I am not proud of. When I hear stories of Rosa Parks, I am proud, though. She must have been terrified and so brave at the same time.

Right now I am listening to the “I Have a Dream” speech by Dr. King. It’s powerful. His voice, his words, his message. It is amazing to see how many people “walked” on Washington, D.C. in order to hear him. His speech is inspiring. I wish that everyone shared his dream. I wish his dream was truly realized today. It has made such progress, but it has not been completely fulfilled. But it can be. Maybe it just takes a very long time for a dream to come to fruition.

Dr. King said, “I submit to you that if a man hasn’t discovered something he will die for, he isn’t fit to live.” He was killed by a coward while he was fighting for his beliefs. It’s sad that his words were so prophetic.

Football Showdown

Tonight is the night! Earlier in the season LSU beat Bama. Tonight is rematch time! The National Championship is riding on this one. They’re both great teams. I’m rooting for Bama. Being from the state of Alabama, I feel an allegiance to them! I respect LSU but I hope they get a whipping tonight. It just might happen. Bama is mad and ready for vengeance.

Here’s a funny video about how football is a way of life in Alabama. The funny thing is that it is the truth.

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