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Prophetic Movie?

Cover of "You've Got Mail"

Cover of You’ve Got Mail

I was watching “You’ve Got Mail” because I was feeling quite nostalgic over the loss of Nora Ephron. I realized how prophetic this movie really was. It discusses how people meet online and online addiction. Wow! She was quite genius. I know a lot of people probably viewed it as a cutesy chick flick, but it was more along the lines of modern day prophecy played right before us. We just didn’t realize how true it really was.

Consider how often you check things online. Do you wake up and check your mail or Facebook right away? Do you have apps on your phone specifically for this?  Hmmm…you might be an addict.

How many people have you met online over the last few years? You may not have truly met them in person, but you know them through online communities. It’s the way of the world now. It’s how we operate. I have a lot of friends through the computer. I may not see them due to my schedule, but we keep in touch and care about our lives.

It was interesting how accurate she really was with her thoughts about life in this movie. She was spot on.

Internet Crack

Internet crack? What are you talking about?! Internet crack refers to those sites which you start using and can’t STOP! You sit at the computer and the first thing you do is check the site to see what is there. It’s like a present every visit. Which sites? Facebook obviously is one. Etsy is an art lover’s dream. Pinterest is the new craze. A paradise for people who love home and arts and crafts.

My Internet crack is Facebook. If you have read my blog before you know I have a love-hate relationship with it.I won’t let myself use Pinterest right now. Why? I love arts and crafts! That’s exactly why. Right now I don’t have time to read a book for pleasure. I certainly don’t need to view a site that stimulates my mind and heart and makes me want to abandon everything to play! I’d never get anything done. I already have a stack of magazines sitting in a box ready for a craft project that I haven’t had time to work on. People keep saying, “You NEED to join Pinterest!” I know they mean well. It is the exact kind of site someone like me loves. And that is exactly why I can’t right now. I need all of the time I can hang on to.

Pinterest addiction

Pinterest addiction (Photo credit: Annie Mole)

Give me a couple of months and I’ll be as big of a junkie as the rest of my friends.

 

Aftermath

 

After someone dies there is always some sort of aftermath. There are things left undone that the people left here have to deal with. There are the speculations about the death itself. There are the mourners trying to recover.

Whitney Houston’s death was tragic and yet so common in a way. Yes, we should remember all the good of her but we shouldn’t idolize her and only believe the good. We should learn a lesson from what she went through. We still don’t know the cause of death, but there is speculation of prescription drugs and alcohol. First, I think we should learn that no matter what we consume (pills, drinks, etc) that we are risking our lives. Just because a doctor prescribes it, that doesn’t mean that it is ok or good for you. It’s scary because these are the people you think you should be able to trust. But there is some personal responsibility as well. We know that mixing drugs and alcohol can be a deadly cocktail and yet people still do it. You’re playing Russian roulette with your life.

Second, we should learn from the tragic lives of these celebrities and use that knowledge in our own lives. While there have been many celebrities who have died from accidental overdoses, it seems fewer people really get it and have the mentality that it won’t happen to them. Don’t be a statistic. Learn. Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson, Heath Ledger, Amy Winehouse, and Brittany Murphy were all extremely talented people and yet they died way too young and for no good reason. Demi Moore is in a rehab facility now. I hope that she has learned something and can get her life on track.

Addiction and substance abuse isn’t for the very rich only, though. No, you see it daily. It’s scary. I have known several people with addictions and loved them and hurt because there was nothing I could do to help them. I tried many ways and times to do something to make them stop the self-destruction. There is nothing you can do when someone is bent on tearing their lives up. Sometimes you just have to let them go and pray for their well-being. I have had to do that and it was the hardest thing in the world.

I am praying for the family of Whitney Houston. I don’t know who said it, but “a child lost her mother and a mother lost her child.” That kind of pain never goes away. I can attest to that. I lost my mother 15 years ago. Not a day passes that I don’t think of her and need her. I also pray for the people I know who are troubled with addiction and substance abuse. They may no longer be in my life but I still have a heart full of love and care for them and wish them peace to deal with their problems in a healthy way.

Much love…

Farewell to a Legend

Whitney Houston was amazing and had a beautiful voice. I remember the first song I ever heard her perform. I actually used it when I got married years ago. “Nobody Loves Me Like You Do” She had such a strong and pure voice.

It saddens me that drugs and alcohol brought her down so far through the years. She was better than that. Hopefully people will learn from this. There are naysayers who say that drugs aren’t that bad. Yeah, they are. They kill. And if they don’t kill you immediately, they will eventually ravage your body to the point where it can no longer heal itself.

Farewell, Whitney Houston. I hope you finally found peace and are in as beautiful place as your voice. You will be missed and we will always love you.

Are We TOO Connected?

In this age of technology it seems that we are connected to something or someone 24/7.  People have their email where it forwards to their phones. They are always on Facebook. They post from their phones. Their Facebook forwards to their phones. People tweet and post statuses all the time. Some are funny. Some are interesting. Some are whiny. Some are just downright annoying. It makes me wonder are we too connected?

Where do we draw the line on staying connected? Should there be a time period that we are online? Should there be a limit on how many posts a person can put on Facebook or Twitter? Who would police this anyway? Would we follow rules if we were to govern ourselves? Should there be a 12-step program for social networking?

Another question I have is why are we so drawn to social networking? Is it because it is easier? Or are we just nosy? For me it is a combination. I like to know what is going on and it is easier to tap on the keys to find out. I have a crazy work schedule and so I am usually not awake when the rest of the world is. So that is how I keep up with them. But what’s the excuse for everyone else? Are they just addicts? And am I just making excuses?

I really don’t know the answers. But I do think we need to step away from our computers more. Even as I type it I cringe. I love my computer. I prefer the safe bubble of my home. But one thing I have found is that technology has made me forget how to live. Social networking has created social awkwardness. Isn’t that ironic? I can get along fine with people, but I sometimes find that I prefer chatting by pressing keys while sitting in my pajamas. I need to disconnect in order to reconnect!

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