We All Have “Stuff”
Have you ever noticed how other people think their “stuff” is more important than yours? I deal with this daily. I think because I am single with no kids that everyone assumes I just don’t have anything to do other than cater to their whims. I was hit with this assumption yet again last night and when I said no, I couldn’t drop everything, they were like , “Well, what do I do?” It took so much for me not to say, “You deal with it.” I am sorry they have stuff going on, but I have a lot on my plate, too. I don’t have time to play Mama to adults. I also don’t have the patience for the whining or the guilt trips. I’m sorry, but when I was going through some of the most horrific times of my life, I still dealt with my life and did what I needed to do. Like it or not! (And for the record, I didn’t like it.)
I don’t know if I just have a lot of entitled people in my life or if my give a damn is busted. But there comes a point where I have to say no. Just because someone has my phone number and can dial it doesn’t mean that I’ll pick it up on the first ring. I can’t be someone’s beck and call girl (wow, I just said call girl) all the time. I have personal things to attend to and have very limited time to do so. It frustrates me to no end that people try to guilt me. And then even worse, it pisses me off and frustrates me that it has obviously worked!
So if anyone is reading this, do you deal with this, too? Do you have people who keep expecting and requesting things all the freaking time? Are you ready to scream? What do you do to not scream? I tried being polite and just say, “I’m sorry but I can’t.” That wasn’t good enough and they kept on. So I said, “I have to go.” Then they sent a text message. What in the world do you do? I can’t say all the ugly, rude things I want to say. So tell me what to do! I need advice.
I think you sorta have to put yourself on auto-pilot to care for others. I know that it makes it a whole lot simpler, at least. One of my pet peeves is when someone calls ME to look up a phone number for them. In the time it took to call me, they could’ve looked for themselves. I don’t mind if they are in the car or something…but if you’re sitting home, or in front of a computer, or at a desk, why do you need me to check?? Or heck…if you’ve called me for the number before (honest to pete…that happens…), look back on your cell phone?? Last time I checked I was NOT 4-1-1!