Communication seems to be really hard sometimes. Sometimes we think we say what we really meant and we didn’t. Sometimes people will read things into what we said when we really meant what we said. Sometimes it comes down to miscommunication between the sexes.
What I don’t get about communication is if you see that there is a problem, why not try to fix it? Some people get angry over the problem rather than trying to tackle it a different way. We all have different communication styles so it is a pretty easy concept to get that the way I say something and the way you say it might sound WAY different. But the thing is that when I see that there is a problem, I try to rectify it. I don’t want that miscommunication to fester and become this big ordeal. That’s when it is hard to fix. That’s when it’s hard to say anything at all. I would rather try to fix a problem early on than ignore it or allow it to consume me. I have seen others do the opposite though and with some bad results.
I won’t say that I have always communicated well. There are some people who push my buttons so hard that I want to push their faces with my fist. (No, I don’t do it. Wanting to do something and actually doing it are two different things.) There are also other people who have hurt me to a point where I don’t know what to say. I have tried before with little to no success. It finally made me understand that I won’t always be batting 1000 when it comes to communicating with others. And that is ok.
I now do my best to communicate as best possible and if that doesn’t work then I try a different tactic. If I get a negative response, I take a break until whoever is being negative (me or the other person) can behave appropriately. Then we can see if we can try it again.