The new year is fast approaching. Most of us start coming up with those wonderful resolutions that we will not fulfill. Why don’t we fulfill them? Because most change requires effort. There’s no magic wand to all these things we want to change or do. It would be nice, but it is definitely not reality.
You don’t like your life? Do something! I don’t like mine either! Guess what. I’m doing something. I’ll admit it…I’ve gone to therapy to learn how to deal with people and issues I wasn’t taught how to deal with growing up. Why? Because I was sick of the same results over and over. I’ve used some of those skills to make changes in my life. Maybe others didn’t like it but it made me feel better. It was an effort that was well worth it for me.
Do you want to lose weight? Well it ain’t gonna fall off if you’re sitting there eating Ben & Jerry’s. Yeah, I love it, too, but I do realize that there has to be some effort on my part. See? Change requires effort. So if I want my pants size to decrease then I am going to have to make the effort it requires. Do I like that? NO WAY! Ben & Jerry are my 2 favorite men. Oh wait! They’re in the top 3. Gerard Butler is #1!
The bottom line is we all expect life to be this wonderful bed of roses. It ain’t. And complaining about it all the time ain’t fixing it. Yeah, sometimes we need to just vent some. But when we keep talking about it then it basically sets us up for doom and gloom. We mope around. Joyce Meyer wrote about this the other day. She wrote this: “ If you want to get over a problem, stop talking about it. Your mind affects your mouth, and your mouth affects your mind. It’s difficult to stop talking about a situation until you stop thinking about it.” It’s so true! This is another form of change. You can change your mindset and possibly situation by not talking about it all the time. Re-focus! Focus on something positive. Focus on doing rather than saying.
There are no magic wands in life and most change requires effort!