Don’t Know What You Got Til It’s Gone

Isn’t it sad that most people don’t know what they’ve got til it’s gone? Sometimes we lose something good. Sometimes we lose something bad. And it is sad that we have to lose it before we realize it.

Why do I bring this up? (Thanks for asking!) Well, I was having a conversation with a friend and we were talking about a multitude of things, as we always do. She brought up the fact that I now laugh and how for a while I didn’t. Actually, I couldn’t. I didn’t find much funny.

So how does this relate to the title of the blog? Well, I realize that now the black cloud that was over me is gone. And I didn’t even realize I had a black cloud over me. There is gray over me from time to time. Everybody has that. But the black cloud that hid the sun from me all the time is gone. From time to time I see the sun and I feel the warmth kiss my skin. It reminds me of the goodness of life and that makes me smile. Then before I know it I am laughing at the most ridiculous things.

I’m glad my loss was something negative. Some people lose something positive and then are truly sorry they lost it. Then they don’t know what to do about it. They self-medicate. They self-analyze. They self-hate. They hate the person or thing that is gone. None of that helps. Sometimes the best thing is to say, “I really screwed up.” Then do your best to make amends and move forward. It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll get what you lost back. It just acknowledges your part in the loss. That’s a big deal in life. At least it is to me. I have seen so many people fail to acknowledge how their actions have impacted their life and other people’s lives.

All in all most of us don’t know what we’ve got til it’s gone. Maybe we should quit being so self-absorbed all the time and start looking at how our actions affect everyone and everything around us. Then maybe we wouldn’t lose what we really care for and we wouldn’t hold onto the things that hurt us.